February 5th, 2024

In this episode, Mariette Frey joins “The Selfish Griever” podcast as a guest to explore the topic of whether or not to move to a different home or town following a significant loss. Mariette Frey shares her expertise as a certified professional organizer and life coach specializing in residential moves. The conversation covers various considerations before deciding, such as the energy of a home, the importance of personal items in grief, and the role of meditation and visualization. The concept of a “City Proof Of Concept” is introduced as a way to experience a potential new location without committing to a permanent move. The importance of community and relationships is also discussed. In this conversation, Mariette Frey shares valuable insights and advice for individuals considering a move to a new city. She emphasizes the importance of exploring different options and gathering data before deciding. Mariette also guides couples with differing opinions on moving, suggesting open communication and understanding. She highlights the unique situations and alternative approaches that can be taken, such as living separately for a period of time.

While The Selfish Griever Podcast has come to an end, a big thank you goes to Whitney Samoran for allowing me to still provide this episode to listeners. It’s an important topic and reminder that everyone’s grief journey is unique to them and that it’s okay to be selfish in your approach. You can find 61 episodes of The Selfish Griever wherever you listen to podcasts. You can learn more about Whitney and her story on her website

Takeaways

  • Consider your personal feelings and energy before deciding to move after the loss of a child.
  • Take time to process grief and emotions before making any major decisions.
  • Create a safe and comforting space in your current home to support healing.
  • Consider a city proof of concept to experience a potential new location before committing to a move.
  • Evaluate the community and support system in a new location before deciding. Take the time to explore different options and gather information before making a decision to move.
  • Open communication and understanding are key when dealing with differences in couples’ opinions on moving.
  • Unique situations and alternative approaches, such as living separately for a period of time, can be considered.
  • Navigating the challenges of marriage and grief requires sensitivity, patience, and support.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences

04:12 Considerations Before Moving

08:07 The Energy of a Home

13:25 Regretting Getting Rid of Personal Effects

15:14 The Role of Personal Items in Grief

17:35 The Energy and Maintenance of a Home

19:30 Processing Grief Before Making Decisions

21:17 Using Meditation and Visualization

23:32 Taking Time to Heal Before Moving

26:03 The Importance of a City Proof of Concept

33:32 Creating a Zen Space and Asking Permission

37:39 Considering Community and Relationships

41:14 Staying for an Extended Period of Time

46:39 Defining Expectations in Relationships

50:36 Considering the Community and Support System

52:36 Exploring Different Options and Gathering Information

54:05 Dealing with Differences in Couples

56:09 Unique Situations and Alternative Approaches

57:38 Navigating the Challenges of Marriage and Grief

58:33 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

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Thank you for listening! XO, Mariette